We all bring our past into our relationships, including our past wounds from childhood. if our wounds are not healed they can ooze onto our partner and potentially destroy the relationships. Our relationships trigger our childhood wounds. That can be:
Fear of abandonment
Rejection
Other insecurities
when this happens our wounded child within gets triggered and we act from that space. Some of the signs that this may be happening include:
You expect your partner to know what you want and need without stating it
when the needs aren't met you get angry or throw a tantrum
When you don't get what you want or need you withdraw
When you feel hurt you don't express it but you pull away (this may be to protect you from hurt)
You cling to your partner and need to be with them all of the time (this may be rooted in a fear of being abandoned)
In all of the above you're reverting to old childhood ways of coping. Really what you are trying to do is to get connection and safety with your partner, but in fact you are pushing them away. They may feel overwhelmed, suffocated when you hold on too tight and unloved when you withdraw.
What your wounded child is saying when you hold on is "don't leave me" but they don't interpret it that way.
What you're doing is pushing your partners away. The childhood wounds robs joy in the relationships. We have to heal these wounds so we can feel secure and allows us to connect with our partners on a different level through joy and love.
Often we have unrealistic expectations form our partners. They are also coming from childhood wounds. These need ot be healed.
This energy clearing webinar is based around letting go of those outdated templates about relationships that cause you to connect through pain, suffering and loss so that you can heal your childhood wounds, so you can connect through love, security and safety.
Join us on December 1st 2022 for Putting the Joy Back Into Relationships: Healing the Wounds That Rob Your From Joyful Connections. This is a taster of our upcoming course: Creating Empowered Relationships where we will dive deeper into healing the wounds from childhood.